Month:December
Writer:Nora Korkor Narety
The silent cries of one is something which remains hidden until it is revealed. We tend to mask our real emotions behind fake emotions, masks-the fake smile! ‘I am tired of this,’ reported the survivor.
‘It is a crime, is it actually a crime, for me to cry for me to miss my mother.For me to envision my home, my comfort zone…’ Chris is faced with the problem like many other men, boys all over the world. The constant yearn for masculinity, the constant manipulation about being emotionless kills many others. Many more examples of Chris exist, and they are hoping for there to be a new world, a world in which they are allowed to share their secrets, their struggles and many more.
According to Wikipedia, masculinity refers to the set of attributes, behaviors and roles attributed to the male populous. But the question is, who made these set of rules, who gave way to these things in which they are set to judge a man.
Why does a man’s fellow brother condone him for showing off emotions. Chris recounted his conversations with friends,’They shut me up, It was an embarrassment for me they constantly reminded me’! Why do we let a set of invisible rules hang over our heads? Why do we let those rules define who we are and what actions in which we can take?
Masculinity does not need to define others. It does not need to define the over 4 billion men in the world! We need to demolish these ideas. No set of rules, ways of life should determine the emotions which can be released by men.
Although it looks like it is not harmful, hiding emotions can be severe and very detrimental to the health of many. This can cause both physical and mental distress in many ways such as increased stress. This can be very detrimental to the help of people because stress can lead to these problems; danger of repository and cardiovascular systems.Stress can cause the heart to beat faster leading to an increase in blood pressure, or it can also be a case of finding difficulty in breathing! There are so many more things which can happen as a result of shutting people up.
Have we thought of the mental pressure in which this causes,people like Chris will always find it hard for them to express themselves in a society which is built against them.The social withdrawal they would have to face. We need to fight for a better future for a world where no one feels pressured to hide their emotions. To hide behind a wall and carry a great burden. Learning about this story has brought me so much emotional attachment to this whole issue. It deeply pains me to find out that millions of people go through this issue daily.
We must not fail them… we simply cannot…